Helpful Gifts

We are told so often “what not to say” and “what not to do” that it can become a bit daunting figuring out what we can do that is helpful and comforting. Rest assured, there are many things you can provide that are a true comfort to the bereaved. Here are some ideas of meaningful gifts that can be a blessing to those who are grieving.

Provide Food

In the early days, cooking can seem like an exhausting task. Providing healthy meals that can be eaten right away or put in the freezer is very helpful. Fruit baskets are also great because if nothing else is eaten, a piece of fruit offers something quick and nutritional.

Groceries dropped off and gift cards to local restaurants are also useful. Restaurants that provide take out provide the option of eating in or out.

The Gift of Time

There are so many ways to give of your time that can be helpful in very practical ways. Here are a few.

  • Help with yard maintenance

  • Running errands

  • Clearing snow from the driveway

  • Dog walking

  • Childcare

  • Rides/Transportation

  • House cleaning

  • Regular check ins

  • Go for a walk together

Memorial Gifts

Memorial gifts that are thoughtfully chosen provide a sense of meaning and connection. There are a variety of beautiful choices; take the time to find something that will have true significance. These are a few that I have received that have been special to me

  • benches

  • flowers and shrubs

  • jewellery

  • photos

  • ice candles

  • donations to charity

Two silver necklaces hanging against a dark background. One has a simple cross pendant, and the other has a rectangular pendant with an engraved handwritten message.
A wicker basket filled with pears, apples, and grapes sits on a white cloth, with a straw hat in the background against a stone wall.
A lit candle in an ice holder with a plaid ribbon tied around it, placed on snow at night.

Help with Funeral of Celebration of Life Service

After receiving the news of the death of a loved one, planning anything beyond taking the next breath can be overwhelming. Having friends and family step in and assist with service arrangements can be such a blessing.

Assistance may include organizing, food provision, rides, music, set up, clean up, lodging for out of town family.

Provide Your Expertise

Often the person left behind finds that there are tasks to do that they have never done before or that they feel ill equipped to manage. Lending your expertise can be a wonderful way to ensure the bereaved person’s practical needs are met.

  • Household maintenance

  • Banking and bill paying

  • Legal advice

  • Car maintenance

Share Their Memory, Say Their Name

I could never stress enough what a gift it is to be able to sit with a friend and share about my son. It is so important to allow those grieving to share stories of their loved one. They need to say their name and hear others do so as well. Sending pictures and videos you have of their loved one will be so appreciated. If you have fond memories or funny stories of the person that has died, sharing them will be such a gift.